The Importance of Mystery

 Good evening, darling!

There are many things that are important to have if you want to be an attractive feminine woman, however one of the most important things that you can do is to make sure to package all of your attractive traits with a hint of *mystery*. *smile*

I say a "hint" because no self-respecting high-value gentleman wants a woman who's secretive -- it would be extremely unwise for anyone to marry a woman who's dishonest and who obviously houses a treasure trove of secrets!

Honesty is an important trait to have in a relationship and any high-value self-respecting man would expect his future wife to be 100% honest with him about her affairs -- you can't grow a healthy garden in a soil of lies, my dear! 

However, that being said, there is a point where honesty is not "the best policy" and when disclosing certain information just becomes unattractive or "too much info (TMI)." :-)

Maintaining an air of mystery is crucial, darling, in the early stages of a relationship with a man, because revealing too much too soon is extremely likely to "turn off" or deter any masculine man who's interested.

The challenge for the feminine woman is to radiate an *air of mystery* while still being honest, forthcoming, and authentic -- and feminine women never shy down from such a challenge! ;-)

A *true* masculine men ideally desires a woman who can balance both mystery and honesty together.

It's important for you to be honest to your man, darling. Good relationships are built off of trust and if you lie to him from the beginning, what does that say about your respect for the relationship -- not to mention him? 

Also know that secrets always come out -- and if you actively hid these secrets, your trickery and lies will come out as well. 

So, as you can see, it's much better to simply be *honest* from the beginning, doll. :-)

However, it's also extremely important that you cultivate mystery. Although it's crucial to your relationship that you do not lie or present yourself dishonestly while dating a man, it's also crucial that you can remain mysterious in the early stage of a relationship while being honest!

This is because men are natural born hunters and if you air all of your dirty laundry out to dry in front of him, where's the hunt?

Men don't want to know all of the dirty details of your life, your past job, and all of your ex-boyfriends on the first date, darling -- nonetheless, the second, third, fourth, or fifth date!

One of the most common complaints among males is that women take dating too seriously, as if they're on a mission to find a husband and make babies with him because their biological clock is ticking.

Men take each date "one date at a time" and their focus is on enjoying themselves and seeing if they can have fun with you and enjoy your company -- not to see if you're possible *wife material*! 

Many men feel that women these days take dating too intensely and focus more on a *mission* than simply having fun and enjoying their company.

You should move through each date like a dance, darling -- there's no need to tell the poor man your life story when you're just dating or getting to know each other! *smile*

Remember that men want to chase and hunt and if you tell him everything about you in the first few weeks, where is the chase then? What else is there for him to unwrap, to uncover, to explore, and to discover?

Upholding mystery in the early stages of dating and a relationship gives a man a challenge and something to explore, unwrap, and discover. It speaks to the *hunter* in his biological makeup. :-) 

However, even after marriage, it's still important to uphold a sense of mystery, although not to the same extent.

It's important before marriage to let the man get to know you inside and out and to not withhold pieces of information that you feel might change his mind about taking you as his *wife*. Remember that the masculine male knows the meaning of the word "responsibility" and values commitment -- once the masculine males commits to something, he sees it through.

This is why it's only fair and respectful to not withhold any information that you feel might change his desire for you. Not only is that incredibly sneaky, but it's also immoral and disrespectful to him and to your relationship -- and if you disrespect him enough to do such a thing, then why on earth are you marrying him? *smile*

A masculine man has the right to know the woman he's committing to before he does so -- one of my favorite qualities about the masculine man is that he values commitment and cherishes it, and knowing that that is true it's only kind and just for him to know what he's committing to!

However, although he should know everything about you before marriage, he doesn't need to see every part of you at any point in the relationship!

He must be made aware of a low credit score, financial irresponsibility, or any illness, however he doesn't need to know or see your grooming habits, before or after marriage -- so close the door when you're tweezing your eyebrows, love! :-)

Maintaining mystery is also important in other personal relationships, such as with your family and with your friends.

In some cases, upholding mystery is just polite and good taste -- if you are fortunate enough to be blessed with abundant wealth, for example, whether through a successful profession or a marriage to a wealthy man, it would be in poor taste to reveal the finery you have acquired to others in a gaudy and purposeful manner.

It would be in better taste and just kind, darling, to keep some sort of *mystery* about your newly acquired wealth, especially when you never know for sure the financial situation of your friends and those around you. *smile*

It's also the choice of a wise wife who keeps some mystery and distance from her family, love, after marriage.

If one has a good relationship with one's family, it's the feminine thing to do to stay in close contact and to offer to help them with what they need -- after all, our parents cared for us when we were children, so we should return the favor when they're elders in any reasonable way that we can. :-) 

However, remember, dear one, that oftentimes one's family can create a *triangle* with our husband, causing us to put our husbands in second place and have him compete for our attention, love, and favor, when we should put our husbands first, as he's a part of ourselves. *smile*

Although the feminine woman does not abandon her family and, if she has a good relationship with them, attends to them and makes sure to care for them in old and weary age, she does not allow a competition or rivalry to occur between them and her husband.

Her husband is an extension of herself, a part of her, her other half, and together they are one unit, and she cares for him, walks beside him, and protects him, and never lets him think that she doesn't "have his back," so to speak. :-)

A feminine wife does not need to tell their parents and family every little detail of her marriage and new family life because the more she tells about her husband and the day-to-day happenings of his life, the more she's unknowingly opening him up to judgment, criticism, and attack from her family -- even though her family surely mean well!

This is where mystery can come in good use while balancing with love and attention to one's family, darling.

It's also wise to practice mystery in day-to-day situations -- while out and about, upholding a sense of mystery is upholding a sense of *propriety*, and is simply protecting oneself and one's image.

Don't be one of those unwise women who criticizes or fights with her husband in public. The waiter at the restaurant doesn't need to know what about your husband has been annoying you these past few weeks!

It's none of his business what goes on in your marriage, and neither is it your friends!

Protect your husband (and your marriage!) by never criticizing him in front of his family or friends because nothing is worse for the masculine man -- not only is this a huge blow to his pride and ego, darling, but it also shows a lack of respect and *damages his trust for you*.

Upholding a sense of mystery in public is also simply more graceful and elegant and it protects your image. *smile*

Well, darling, that's all for my post "The Importance of Mystery" -- I hope you liked it. :-)

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