Tuesday, January 8, 2013

The Feminine Mother's Responsibility to her Son

Hello, my dear friend. xo

A common desire of the elegant feminine woman is to go on to raise children with her masculine high-value husband.

The feminine woman craves building a life with her masculine partner, and such a life can often forming children of fine and noble character together.

Regardless of how your children come to you, whether naturally or through adoption, once they are in your life you have a great responsibility to them, darling!

For as children, our minds are fragile, susceptible to negative influence, "like a sponge!", absorbing everything we observe.

This is why the feminine woman has a great responsibility to her *son*, sweetheart, one that she must take into grave and careful consideration.

Of course, she has responsibility to her *daughter* as well -- I'll write on that one later. :-)

And yes, of course, her husband has a responsibility to his son that is just as important, so don't let him off the hook! ;-)

It's just a different kind of responsibility. 

There is a certain mistake that many aspiring feminine women are making, my dear friend. Today, there is a trend of rediscovering one's femininity for the purpose of improving one's love life and yes, although femininity does inject your love life with passion, fire, and trust, we must remember to not turn on our femininity just for our husbands and then turn it off when alone with the other men in our lives.

This is because staying in our femininity with all of the men in our lives (and all of the women as well -- femininity benefits you in more ways than romance, sweetheart!) can help with all of our relationships! 

Too many women learn to live in their feminine with their husbands but forget that their relationship with their sons can be improved and made into something more *beautiful* and *radiant* if they were to live in their feminine while interacting with them as well. 

Sons can benefit from interacting with a mother who's in her feminine, dear one!

You see, dear one, a man who's very comfortable in his masculinity often already shows masculine energy from a young age.

He has the same urge to conquer. He has the same assertiveness (and maybe even aggression!), the same desire to accomplish and do things (very results-oriented), and, like, the masculine man, he often places his self-worth in these things as well and feels a wounded ego if he falls short in these areas.

Just think about the little boys playing blocks in the Kindergarten classroom -- each boy will try to make their tower of blocks the tallest one of all, and each one already recognizes and understands that only one can be.

And so, the boys compete (as is common with masculine men) and only one gets the tallest tower -- and perhaps the others will sulk and take the game too seriously, because after all, for them it's not a game, but a measure of their self-worth. *smile*

If a little boy already displays masculine energy, then he can benefit from his mother complementing that energy and interacting with it with her femininity

Being in your feminine while interacting with your son, sweetheart, will help to take his masculine energy and nurture it into the mature sort of masculinity that we find in a high-value masculine man. :-)

Use what you learn about masculinity here on this website and apply it not to just your husband but to your son.

Build up your son the way that you build up your husband;

Respect your son the way that you respect your husband (and show it!);

Ask your son to aid you in tasks just like you might your husband (and give your son the chance to be *proud* of helping mommy!);

Don't talk down to him (or on him to others!) in a way that's disrespectful or makes him feel criticized, embarrassed, or incapable -- talk about him well to others;

And, of course, let's not forget how respecting our *husbands* can help him! :-)

Remember that a little boy's eyes are impressionable and are watching your every move, sweetheart -- and he learns what's right and what's wrong from watching his parents.

Treat your husband with respect and like the high-value man you know him to be, and then your son will learn both how to treat a feminine wife (as your respect brings out the best in your husband in front of the little one) and also to not settle for a woman who's anything but a treasured feminine woman for him!

If your son watches you disrespecting your husband, being blunt and abrasive with him, talking down on him, and snapping at him to "get it yourself!" when he asks for something, he will most likely end up marrying a woman who treats him the same way.

And I know that we don't want our sons to be with any woman who's abusive, rude, or got married despite not wanting to be a loving wife

So remember, my dear reader, that your son's impressionable eyes are always watching you and how you interact with his father, and he'll grow up best by watching a mother in her feminine respecting and looking up to his father and also by getting the same feminine woman treatment. ;-)

Well, darling, that's all for this article. I hope you liked it! xo






 





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4 comments:

The Working Home Keeper said...

As the mother of two sons (and a daughter!), I know the kind of woman I wish for my sons to marry. I would want her to be loving, gentle, kind, respectful with a spirit to serve. And, then I realized that in order for my sons to recognize that kind of woman when they are older, they must see me reflect those qualities while they are young.

Great post!

Mary Ellen
The Working Home Keeper

His Handmaidens said...

You have good insight into boys, so I hope someday you have some of your own to raise. My son is only a year and a half, but many of those distinctly masculine traits are already apparent. He loves to "help", take care of his baby sister (and me), and is quite the little problem solver. A cute story: my husband regularly tells me I'm pretty(even in my sweatshirt) and my son has picked up on this. When he was 6 months old I put on cocktail dress for a date with my husband who asked our son if mommy looked pretty. He gave me a brief study and then gave me a coy, flirtatious smile(which he is very good at). He now has a special smile for when he thinks mommy or his sister look pretty and I think this is just the beginning of him learning to properly admire the differences between men and women. Now it is just a matter a training!

Thanks for all your great posts lately. I don't always get a chance to comment, but I love reading them!

Caitlin

Nina Pundarik-Dossin said...

Thanks so much The Working Home Keeper,

You are very right, we must set an example for the kind of woman we want our sons to end up with. :-)

Nina Pundarik-Dossin said...

His His Handmaidens!

Thanks so much for your comment. That is such a beautiful story -- you always have such inspirational examples to offer to support my writing, and I love hearing them! I think examples are great for learning. :-)

It sounds like you have a beautiful family. Awwwww, hold them close for me! xo

Nina