Good afternoon, darling!
Many things change as we move more and more into the future and one of the things that change is the process of *courtship* -- how the romantic relationship between men and women progress towards a *lifelong commitment*!
Historically (or even up until the 1960's), the process of courtship was much more straightforward. If a man was interested in a woman, he'd ask her out to dinner. If he liked her after the date, he'd ask her out to dinner again. After many dinners, if he loved her, he'd ask her to marry him.
It was the job of men to make the first move so there was really no such thing as a man being shy enough that he needed a woman to take the reigns -- he knew that either he could make a move or he could give her up to someone else! *smile*
Today, things are so much more *complex* -- we have to take into account the fact that women are generally better educated (more women graduate college in the United States than men) and that women are making enough to pay for their own meals.
One of the things that's hard to navigate for modern women in the dating world is the presence of Facebook (the *king* of all social networking sites).
Facebook has significantly complicated the world of dating and relationships, my doll! It's truly a minefield that a feminine woman interested in a masculine man has to navigate carefully and with caution. *smile*
A simple poke, casual message, or cool post on his wall might not have the same interpretation to him as it does to you. And adding him as a friend might seem so *meaningless* in this world of social networking!
But remember, dove, that every little social interaction between a masculine man and a feminine woman has great meaning -- and so it's important that she proceed with awareness. ;-)
The first thing that a feminine woman shouldn't do if there's a masculine man she has her eye on is add him as a friend. Oh, no! Too many feminine lovelies make this mistake, because in this world where almost everyone has a page, it seems so harmless and so casual.
But that there is the problem -- it's casual, and so it's definitely not harmless!
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Remember, darling, that the masculine man values and desires what he has to invest in -- what he has to invest his time, money, and/or energy into.
When you add a man on Facebook, you're being casual (i.e. not a woman he has to put effort into and invest himself in) and easy.
Adding a man on Facebook makes it easy for him to reach out to you, to contact you, and to see what you're up to. Adding him on Facebook makes you into an easy woman to snag for him (at least when it comes to getting the chance to ask you out).
And a woman he sees has made herself easy for him to get in touch with and contact is a woman he doesn't have to invest in. *smile*
You may think that adding him on Facebook is androgynous and meaningless, but whether or not you were interested in him, it makes you an *easy woman* for him to get in touch with!
And remember, darling: the masculine man wants a woman he can *value*, and he can value a woman he has to *invest in*.
This is one of the only ways to truly be valued, respected, and appreciated by a masculine man in the beginning of the relationship! :-)
So, avoid adding him as a friend on Facebook. You may think that it's adrogynous and meaningless because of how common Facebook is, but what it does is make you easy -- easy to get in touch with, easy to contact, easy to ask out, and easy to figure out.
It takes away some of your mystery -- and we know how important mystery is to attraction and relationships, lovely! *smile*
If a masculine man wants to be your Facebook friend, he will add you and if you're only dating, you have no responsibility to accept his invitation (as a matter of fact, it might be better for you to just ignore it).
And don't use, "Maybe he tried to add me but couldn't find me..." as an excuse.
If a masculine man truly wants to add you on Facebook, he will make it happen, someway and somehow. The masculine man isn't scared off by what's difficult or a challenge and if he can't find you, he'll ask around, search in different ways, or find you somewhere else on the internet first.
But have faith, doll, that if a masculine man is truly interested in you and wants to add you on Facebook, he will make it happen. :-)
Other things that many feminine women make the mistake of doing on Facebook to the masculine man we're interested in, yet are actually counterproductive, are:
Writing on His Wall;
"Liking" his posts or photos;
Sending a short "innocent" message;
Posting links, photos, or memes on his wall;
Attempting to "Facebook chat" him;
Tagging him in a post so that you show up on his wall;
All of these actions may seem innocent to you, my feminine darling but to the masculine man they aren't. To the masculine man, you are the one being in your masculine and pursuing while he's the one being pursued, and you are the one investing while he's the one being invested in.
He might be receptive at first and might even go out on a date or two with you, but he won't truly value you, appreciate you, or maintain an interest and attraction to you in the longterm.
When you do these seemingly innocent things like "sharing" something on his wall, you are doing one of two things:
(1) You are pursuing him, being the masculine
(2) You are putting yourself in the friend zone (which you already did by adding him on Facebook -- but if he added you, but then you started writing on his wall, then you're doing it)
Don't get me wrong, lovely -- the masculine man will most likely enjoy the attention and being pursued. But he'd either enjoy your company as a friend or he'll take you out, enjoy your continuing to pursue him, but lose interest quickly.
The best thing to do as a feminine woman, darling, is to just not add him on Facebook and if he adds you and you accept, not initiate contact in seemingly innocent ways.
To the masculine man, your liking his status isn't innocent -- it's pursuit. And also remember that the masculine man's hunter instinct is very acute -- you may think you're playing it "cool", but when a feminine woman is truly interested in a man, he'll pick up on how you're acting out of interest no matter how "cool" you play it! *smile*
Well, lovely, that's all for my article "Facebook: How it Affects Attraction Between the Feminine Woman and the Masculine Man" -- I hope it helps you to avoid the mistakes I made on Facebook in the past with masculine men! :-)
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